Flogging (or flagellation, as it’s also known) should be an enjoyable kinky sex practice for the giver and the receiver. If you and your lover are keen to try flogging, you’ll need to start by visiting your favourite gay sex toy shop, to find the perfect flogger for you.
Finding The Perfect Flogger
When buying your first flogger, you’ll need to consider how comfortable it is to hold, if it has a balanced weight, and the material that it’s made of. Long strand floggers that are made of soft suede or leather are a classic design, and a popular choice with flagellation novices.
If you’ve been flogging for a while and want to upgrade your favourite gay sex toy, you can always choose a flogger that is made of plastic or paracord, or that features strands with monkey knots.
Practice Your Flogging Skills
Before flogging your partner, you should always practice your swing against something else. Partner with a pillow to help you get a feel for flogging. Move on to flogging yourself on an arm or leg, so that you know how the contact feels.
Getting Started
Make sure that your partner is comfortable before you get started. They should be positioned within arm’s reach of you. Start the flogging nice and slow, and with lighter strokes on the ass or back. Continue to a faster pace that delvers impact that has a slight sting.
Check in with your partner frequently, so that you know whether they want more or less impact. It’s OK to stop after 5 minutes (if you’ve promised a 30-minute flogging session) as flagellation is a lot harder than it looks. Take a break and recommence when your arm no longer aches.
As you become more skilled at flogging, you can move on to the chest, legs or groin. When flogging hard, always avoid soft tissue areas, like the stomach or sides.
Flogging Surprises
To keep your partner in suspense, while also giving your tired flogging arm a rest, take occasional breaks and introduce a few surprise sensations. Use your hands in other ways to explore your lover’s body, or other sex toys to excite, arouse and stimulate.
Receiving A Fantastic Flogging
As a bottom, you’ll obviously want to know what to expect during your first flogging session. Ideally, you want to be partnered up with an expert flogger who knows how to deliver blows that elicit pleasurable sensations, and not intense pain,
Try to relax, as being tense will make the flogging feel more uncomfortable. Use a safe word or the traffic light system to let your partner know your limits. Green = keep going, yellow = slow down, and red = STOP!